Are you gay?
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CluedoKid,
I'm interested to know more. If you don't feel like posting it here, PM me.CluedoKid wrote:I take back what I said. I don't know if I'm gay, but I sure do enjoy men.Then again, maybe you guys don't want to read about that.
I used to be strictly attracted to girls, then a cross over period of bisexuality, and now strictly attracted to boys. At that post I made that post, I had trouble reconciling with the gay label due to be prior heterosexuality. More recently however, I feel I can move on from a past that doesn't apply to how I feel today. If 'gay' is what best describes my orientation, then sure, no shame in that.
In other-words, no problem here.
In other-words, no problem here.
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I think it's strange the way identity works. On the one hand, I do kind of get the idea of breaking life into easy, digestible bits. My choices, preferences, and background can be summed up in a few words, for easy portability -- wherever I go, and whatever the situation, I have touchstones that keep me connected to the identity I've had a hand in creating: I am a musician, I am bisexual, I am Danish, I'm a non-smoker, I'm a Confucian, blah blah blah.
On the other hand, we all know the labels don't really fit. I live in Denmark but I was born in Indonesia, to an American and an Armenian. I'm bisexual, but I'm eighteen years old and all my sexual contact has been with guys. I'm a "non-smoker", but I toke up now and then.
Even tendencies are problematic. My favorite color is red, but given the choice between two ties, for no particular reason I choose the yellow over the red, and I drive a blue car, and in fact virtually nothing in my house is red.
It's messy, and I don't know how helpful it is, but it seems like the truth of the matter is individual to each and every individual moment. I met a really cute guy with a horse dick and we're going to do the nasty ... And ten minutes after it's over I bump into this pretty young thing and we get it on in a broom closet. Am I bisexual? I may not do it with another girl for the rest of my life -- how bi is that?
Who are you right now? What do you want right now? Nothing? Not feeling particularly randy? Are you, in fact, engaged in some kind of work or social activity where sexual preoccupation is going to get in the way ...? So, you're asexual. But tonight, when you go out clubbing, you can take home whomever of whatever gender identity (or identities) or whatever genitalia you like. And once there, the two or several of you can go about getting as far away from asexuality as human physiology, your own sexual hangups, and the laws of physics will allow.
I just feel -- usually -- that these identifiers are more trouble than they're worth. They lead to faulty conclusions, mostly, that my sister is a poser, or that she thinks I am, or that my sister will never get married, or I never will. What difference does any of that make? OTOH, if you feel like telling someone you went to bed with your best friend and it was the best lay you've ever had, the truth of that event and the desire to say it and the consequences positive and negative which result have nothing to do with any label you give yourself.
On the other hand, we all know the labels don't really fit. I live in Denmark but I was born in Indonesia, to an American and an Armenian. I'm bisexual, but I'm eighteen years old and all my sexual contact has been with guys. I'm a "non-smoker", but I toke up now and then.
Even tendencies are problematic. My favorite color is red, but given the choice between two ties, for no particular reason I choose the yellow over the red, and I drive a blue car, and in fact virtually nothing in my house is red.
It's messy, and I don't know how helpful it is, but it seems like the truth of the matter is individual to each and every individual moment. I met a really cute guy with a horse dick and we're going to do the nasty ... And ten minutes after it's over I bump into this pretty young thing and we get it on in a broom closet. Am I bisexual? I may not do it with another girl for the rest of my life -- how bi is that?
Who are you right now? What do you want right now? Nothing? Not feeling particularly randy? Are you, in fact, engaged in some kind of work or social activity where sexual preoccupation is going to get in the way ...? So, you're asexual. But tonight, when you go out clubbing, you can take home whomever of whatever gender identity (or identities) or whatever genitalia you like. And once there, the two or several of you can go about getting as far away from asexuality as human physiology, your own sexual hangups, and the laws of physics will allow.
I just feel -- usually -- that these identifiers are more trouble than they're worth. They lead to faulty conclusions, mostly, that my sister is a poser, or that she thinks I am, or that my sister will never get married, or I never will. What difference does any of that make? OTOH, if you feel like telling someone you went to bed with your best friend and it was the best lay you've ever had, the truth of that event and the desire to say it and the consequences positive and negative which result have nothing to do with any label you give yourself.
It's discouraging to think how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit. -- Blithe Spirit, Noel Coward.
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I identify as something that was not mentioned in the options but is closest related to bisexuality. I am pansexual. Pansexual, for those of you who don't know, is not caring about gender. I believe that gender is fluid and there for there are more then 2 genders. I don't care how you identify. It also includes IS, trans etc, I feel it is more open and inclusive and I live that. I don't expect the people I like or have crushes on to fit the gender roles. To me there should be no such thing. I fall for someone because of who they are, not what is between their legs and how they identify.
When I first came out I came out as lez. I thought I was only attracted to women. I was in a relationship with a woman for 15 years. During that time I realized I also have attractions to men. And from there thought I was bi. But then I heard the term pan and it fit me even better. It is not a well known term and I actually kind of like that. It gives me the chance to teach and share with people and hopefully make a difference.
When I first came out I came out as lez. I thought I was only attracted to women. I was in a relationship with a woman for 15 years. During that time I realized I also have attractions to men. And from there thought I was bi. But then I heard the term pan and it fit me even better. It is not a well known term and I actually kind of like that. It gives me the chance to teach and share with people and hopefully make a difference.
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I Had No Idea Ohno Was A Maleohno__ wrote:Mentally I'm homosexual but physically (so far) I've abstained away from close "contact". I'm fearful of having additional bacteria/viruses and also, I'm very uncomfortable about the thoughts of my downstairs orifice being used - and me using another man's.
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Re: Are you gay?
It’s interesting to note that even iterations of the Clue characters have openly expressed their sexual orientation as being gay or *beep*. Mr Green in the film and then Prof Plum and Detective Amarillo in the comic.
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Re: Are you gay?
Well, it's a very hot topic these days, no matter whether people support or oppose it, so there's no avoiding it: pop culture follows the trends, and talking about one's sexual orientations IS something that's been recently turned from a shameful thing into a way to define yourself, on equal terms as, for example, what you like, what your job is, or what your name is.
And I find it "interesting" that the forum's spam/swear filter censors "l3sb1an" but doens't censor "gay", what do you have against girls who love girls?
And I find it "interesting" that the forum's spam/swear filter censors "l3sb1an" but doens't censor "gay", what do you have against girls who love girls?

Re: Are you gay?
Straight with a wonderful sweetheart speaking:
The censors of this board are what came with the PHPBB package. The only person who could alter this is Michael, the admin. I sincerely hope he'll be around soon for many reasons.
The censors of this board are what came with the PHPBB package. The only person who could alter this is Michael, the admin. I sincerely hope he'll be around soon for many reasons.
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Re: Are you gay?
I agree, I've enjoyed reading his input in previous posts.